Friday, December 2, 2016

Lessons On Giving


Recently, fires blazed through one of our neighboring towns. The fires destroyed homes, businesses, and took the lives of some. While it was not close enough to impact us, the devastation still affected us and broke our hearts. 

My children watched it on the news with me and we talked about it. Their school district decided to reach out to the community and take up money for the affected children. What a wonderful lesson! In a world where there is violence and tragedy, it is so wonderful that there are still communities where people help people—and that they teach that kindness to our children. 

Growing up, I watched my parents give selflessly to others. If someone knocked on our door in the middle of the night and needed help, my parents helped them. Every time that various situations happened I was moved by their love and compassion for others. It made a difference in my life. From a very young age, they instilled the value of helping someone else inside of me. Now when it’s my turn to show that same kindness to others, it feels natural to me. 

It feels so amazing when God blesses us to have enough to give to someone else. That is what we should strive for. And what we should teach our children. Our lives should never be just about us. Every day we should wake up and ask God how we can serve someone else. 

Love and blessings, 


Candida 

Thursday, December 1, 2016

How To Develop The Mindset Of An Overcomer


This morning I had an awe moment. As I was holding the plank in my workout, I was thinking about how I could help others. Before I realized it, the time was over. For anyone that’s ever held a plank for any length of time, then you understand how challenging it can be. It was my last move in my hour long workout, and I was exhausted. Usually, my whole body trembles and I have to breathe through the last one and really concentrate. 

The only thing that changed for me was my mindset. Since my mind was occupied, I didn’t think about quitting or my pain. And that simple thing made such a difference for me. It also reminded me how powerful our mind can be. 

For months now, I have been trying to figure out how I can help other people in my challenge groups and in their every day life. When that moment occurred to me this morning, it became abundantly clear what God has been trying to show me. In order to reach our full potential in this life and tap into our inner wisdom, we have to listen to what we are telling ourselves. 

Every negative declaration that we make silently and aloud, affects us in some way. If we tell ourselves that we can’t do something, then we accept our declaration as the truth. We don’t challenge it, therefore we can’t change it. 

 God has blessed me with the beautiful gift, through trials and tribulations, to know how to change my mindset and develop the mindset of an overcomer. And that is what I want to share with you. 

The difference between where we are in life and where we want to be depends greatly on what we believe. When we believe wholeheartedly that we can do something, then we will find a way to make it happen. Will it be easy? Probably not. But if it’s on our heart, then it will be worth it. 

For the whole month of December, I am going to focus on how I can help you. By sharing my stories and journey, I want to show you how I have learned to overcome my challenges and how you can, too. 


If you’d like to go on this journey with me, please send me a message candidasullivan@yahoo.com) or leave me a comment by December 12, 2016. If you’d like to get started right away, then I encourage you to buy my book, Despite Your Circumstances. It is filled with stories of overcoming and it even has a section at the end to help you discover the things you’d like to change in your life and then how to go about it. 

Love and blessings, 
Candida











Wednesday, November 30, 2016

The Path To Success


The very moment that we decide to change something in our life, an obstacles arises. Have you ever noticed how that always seems to happen? Perhaps, we decide that tomorrow we are going to get up at 5 am to workout, but we end up having a sleepless night. Or we decide that we are going eat healthier, and we are invited to a party. The scenarios are all the same. Once we start moving toward our goals and desires, the enemy tries to stop us. He doesn’t want us to do anything to better ourselves. 

The only way to defeat him is to know why we want to change. Our desire to change has to be greater than the comfort of remaining the same. Obstacles will arise. Hardships will come. We will get off track and even get discouraged at times. The key to overcoming, however, is to be relentless in our efforts. 

Some things are completely out of control. Unexpected things come up. In those trying times, we just have to do the best that we can do—in that moment—and forget the rest. Then we need to get back on track as soon as possible. 

The journey to success is not straight. It has many wrong turns and obstacles to overcome. That is what makes it so rewarding. 

Every day we get to choose how we will spend our time and what is the most important to us. And we need to make sure that whatever we are spending our time with is moving us closer to our dreams. 

Love and blessings, 


Candida

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Taking Back Control

I used to take drugs to make it through my day. While they were prescription drugs, prescribed by my doctor, still I was completely addicted to them. My body became dependent on them, and soon I needed more and more to help me feel calm. But the truth is that I never really felt calm. Even with three pills a day, I still struggled with stress, depression, and anxiety. 

My problem was that I took the pills prescribed to help me, but I didn’t do anything to help myself. Just taking the pills alone did not help me, so my doctor increased my dosage. The answer to my problems, however, was not in a pill. It was the Lord. 

No amount of medication in the world can help a Godly sorrow. What I needed more than anything else was a relationship with God. Once I started seeking Him, He helped me to overcome the reasons for why I needed the medication. When we change our mindset about a situation, how we feel about the situation changes immediately. 

Once I started making changes in my life, I no longer needed the medicine. Most of my problems were self made. I had a horrible habit of procrastinating. Putting things off to the last minute, however, kept me in that feeling of stress. Nurturing negative thoughts was another habit that I had to break. It was the devil’s way of keeping me in that feeling of hopelessness. So was rushing. I would sleep until the last possible second every morning and then rush to get ready for work. I also stayed up too late at night, so I wasn’t getting enough sleep. 

Realizing my obstacles, and then working to overcome them has made an enormous difference in my life. My life today, doesn’t even resemble my life a few years ago. If we are not growing, then we are dying. 

Some of my favorite ways to deal with stress:

  1. Prayer
  2. Deep breathing 
  3. Meditation
  4. Exercise
  5. Massage
  6. Walk in nature
  7. Laughter
  8. Get up early and schedule my day
  9. Writing
  10. Read something inspiring

Sometimes we just need to evaluate our life, and take back the control from our enemy. He will destroy us, if we give him the opportunity. 

Some Bible verses to help:

Philippians 4:6-7 (KJV)
Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Psalm 61:2 (KJV)
From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

1 Peter 5:7 (KJV)
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

John 16:33 (KJV)
33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

John 14:27 (KJV)
27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Love and blessings, 


Candida 

Monday, November 28, 2016

Half Way There: 15/30


Sometimes we need to take a chance and do the unexpected, in order to prove to ourselves that it’s possible. When I first received my new workout package, I was a little disappointed that the calendar was 30 scheduled workouts—with no rest day. Even though I have regularly exercised for years, I have never done so for 30 days in a row. Immediately, my mind started making excuses. Because we always believe that it is impossible, until we do it. 
Today, I am half way there.

For the first week, my mind constantly searched for a reason to skip a day. But once I reached the 7 day mark, it has become easier to convince myself that I can do it. This workout program has been especially challenging for me because it is targeting my weakness and strengthening the areas that I have so much trouble with. My doctor thinks that it may really help me in the long run.

Anytime we try to change something about ourselves, it is hard. Not only do we have to push our bodies to do more, but we also have to push our minds. Our enemy would love to keep us in a place of pain and unhappiness. He delights in our suffering. But when we break through his barriers and do the unexpected, we set up a stone of remembering for ourselves. Then, the next time that he arrives in our lives and tells us that we can’t do something, we can remember our previous victory with the Lord and how He helped us to overcome our negative thoughts and our enemy. 

The only way to grow, physically, emotionally, and spiritually is constantly push ourselves beyond our comfort zone and to embrace the challenges in our lives. When I do my own challenges, it helps me to develop the strength that I will need for future battles. Every day I am training for my life. Every time that I push myself to my preconceived limits, and then overcome them, I am teaching myself not to give up when life gets tough. And I love how I feel when it’s over. 

Love and blessings, 


Candida

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Loving Our Enemies

Matthew 5:44 KJV
[44] But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

It is so hard for us to love those that hurt us. We often seek revenge and want to hurt the ones who have hurt us. But what if we loved them instead? Isn't that what a God has commanded us to do?

If there is one that I have learned about God's word, it is that there are no exceptions. It doesn't tell us to love them, except if they do this or that. 

We are all human. Sometimes I lash out at my loved ones when I'm hurting, scared, or not doing what I'm supposed to be doing. When I'm in that state, I need love, understanding, and compassion the most. Even though my actions might say otherwise. 

The more we practice the loving state, the more natural it will become in our lives. I want to react with love first, instead of anger.   Since this is my weakness, it is something that I have to work on constantly. It is not my place to judge others,  but my responsibility to love them. 

Love and blessings, 

Candida

Saturday, November 26, 2016

The Power of Vision


Last night, I decided to go back through my journal and read some of the things that I had previously recorded. After a few pages, I found a place where I talked about writing words of encouragement—365 of them to be exact. As I read my words, I smiled and was a little awed by my Lord. He gave me the thought at least a year before I wrote the first one. And I had completely forgotten about even writing that in my journal. In fact, it was my publisher who suggested that I write the 365 snippets for an app.  

Now, however, as I look at my new app “Words of Encouragement” I realize the importance of writing things down. If we can dream it, we can achieve it. Before my books were ever published, I imagined kids surrounding me as I read them all about Zippy. Now I have three Zippy books in print, along with translations in Spanish and Russian, and I’ve read my stories to thousands of children. Before I had ever met anyone else with Amniotic Band Syndrome, I imagined it. The day that I attended a picnic with over 200 people, some of them with ABS, I remembered my dream. For two years, I wrote, ‘become an award winning author’ on my vision board. This year, in 2016, it happened. 

When we become clear about what we want and develop a plan to make it happen, anything is possible. I believe that God is the One who puts those dreams in our hearts. He wants us to do everything that is possible for us to do to make it happen, and then leave the impossible to Him. 

Would you be interested in learning more about my process of creating a vision board? This can work with all areas of our life. Send me an email to: candidasullivan@yahoo.com or leave me a comment. 

Also my app “Words of Encouragement” is free in the app store. I’d love for you to download it. 

Love and blessings, 


Candida

Author shares message through Zippy the zebra